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Yes, we know…your wedding registry isn't about your guests. It's about what you and your groom need or just want to start your lives together, and we totally get that. However, since your guests are the ones purchasing the gifts, why not put them in the mood to shop when they click on your page? Um, can we say genius? Kidding! Seriously though, here are four potential wedding registry turn-offs for your friends and family and easy tweaks that are a win-win for everyone.
1. Asking for all cash or experience gifts
Many guests, relatives in particular, love to give a physical gift, especially for a wedding shower, says Lizzy Ellingson, Founder of Blueprint Registry. There's just something about it from a guest perspective (perhaps it's the whole watching you unwrap the actual present in person part?) that makes it preferable. Regardless, consider adding a few tangible items to your registry that create a unique (in-home) experience if that's what you're seeking, suggests Ellingson. For example, a wine fridge, hammock, cornhole set or outdoor movie equipment.
2. Not having many options
Because we all like options, right? “The old rule of thumb is to have as many gifts on your registry as guests,” informs Ellingson. If you notice that most of your gifts have been bought two weeks before the big day, have fun and add 10-15 more items or go wild and register for a couple group gifts you've had your eye on, she advises. “Let your friends and family know what items you'd really prefer purchased by tagging your favorites.” This way, everyone comes out on top.
3. Only registering for expensive stuff (or vice versa)
It's always best to include a wide variety of price points on your registry so, again, your guests have plenty of options that fit their respective budgets to choose from. Some friends and family may want to splurge and buy you that fancy new vacuum, whereas others may only be able to afford the $30 cutting board you asked for. If you must register for a disproportionate amount of pricy stuff (perhaps it's time to upgrade furniture?), make it a group gift and create a range of contribution amounts. For example, $50, $75, $100, $150, $200, etc. That, or simply allow your guests to give whatever they're comfortable with toward the item.
4. Not personalizing it
Okay, your guests aren't necessarily going to get annoyed by this, but they will feel even better about buying you a present if you take the time to write a personal note on your registry or website. “Tell them how excited you are to have them share in your new life together,” urges Ellingson. And if you're requesting cash for your honeymoon or a down payment on a new home, dish the deets. Tell them what you'll do with the money, where you're going on your honeymoon or how you've been saving up for the house of your dreams for so long.